
It wa a cloudy & windy morning as I fired up my PC & after checking my email, I had a bit of a read of the forums at the Big Brother website.
After reading
this
message, a flood of thoughts occured 2 me and I scribbled a few of them down ...
... and a few more as I sat on the train on the way into the
Melbourne Aquarium ...
Note: In case that message has become defunct, here's the section that most caught my eye ...
Note: If you don't happen 2 care for my thoughts, you might still like 2 scroll down to the bottom of this page where there's some interesting linx ...
He should be celebrating life as we are on this planet for a very short time. I have lost people very close to me and the last thing they would want me to do is to mope around. They would want me to get out there and take every opportunity that comes my way and rejoice in what I have. You always keep their memory alive in your heart but you must live your life as well.
I suppose my first reaction was to recall that native american motto about never judging anyone until you have walked a mile in their moccassins. {Should look up the exact wording of that little proverb}
And I will be the first 2 admit I do not always follow this wonderful advice. - YET I admit i do not always follow this adage --- and let's face it, if people TRULY took it 2 heart then 90% of human conversation & probly 99% of posts here would never take place ...
To further explore this question ... it is a deep mystery as to why any particular person 'turns out' the way they do. Why they have the particular personality they have and the character 'flaws' they may wrestle with. What do you really believe about a person's personality anyway ... many people have explored this question ... is it genetically determined ... is is the result of conscious choice? (If so, one would have 2 ask why anyone would CHOOSE to be abrasive or sullen or volatile) ... Is it the result of environment & circumstances & events beyond the person's capacity to control ... if so, then how can you really rip into someone who has a personality that happens to 'get on your nerves' ... or under your skin ...
{Is a person's personality due to alien telepathy or evn abduction ...}
So, maybe that is just his personality to behave as he is doing. Not everyone is cheerful & upbeat & the life of the party. I've met many many people who'd dearly love to be able 2 change their personalities - mainly because one of the MOST popular human sports these days is to sit around & dissect the behaviour of others, and usually not in a kind & compasionate manner ...
I know of verrry few people who have significantly altered aspects of their personality even if they'd desperately like to ... {where is that link to Caroline Myss? ...
here?
I may flesh out the following thoughts at some stage but I figured they were worth jotting down anyway. Your mileage may vary ...
At a deeper level you might ask yourself WHY his behaviour upsets you ... can you ONLY love or feel fondly towards those people who have bright personalities and are charismatic ... then maybe your capacity for unconditional love needs a litle boost ...
Did you ever think 2 send him warm thoughts instead of instructions ...
Or do you agree with King Otto's methods {must find a link to that brilliant Monty Python sketch - basically, there is a place called Happy Valley and there are no miserable or discontent people because wise King Otto had them all put to death under the 'Happiness Act'}
Click here for King Otto - it's on one of the Python CD's ...
And I'll admit at times it does seem a tempting 'solution'. I have spent a lot of time around people with severe emotional or psychiatric difficulties ... and currently we just aren't very good at 'fixing them up' or giving them the unconditional love they need ... mainly because in their pain they can act a bit weird & scary at times. And because we're not terribly flash at genuinely helping such people, it's hardly surprisin when a few of them go right off the deep end or sink into an unspeakable abyss ...
{Include that Temporary Insanity link}
There were a few more thoughts about those two words 'should' and 'must' ... and how infinitely better off a human being's existence would be if we removed them from our collective vocabulary. {Something else to sit & contemplate...}
Yes, try it the next time the word 'should' floats into your thoughts ... bearing in mind a couple of things ... you can never know why any particular soul is experiencing what they are currently experiencing ... and unless you have achieved omniscience, advice which is ideal for one person may be utterly useless (or even detrimental) for another type of person ...
{Yes, if you step back & take a really good (& impartial) look at it, using the word 'should' or 'must' is akin to claiming omniscience ...
If you grew up in a warm, loving & supportive family, then you cannot possibly say how 'you' would have turned out if you had experienced a dysfunctional or neagtive one ...
... for a bit more on this theme, checkout the madman link ...
Of course, to truly walk that mile in their moccasins, you would have to become the other person. you would have to dissolve your on identity and
merge with theirs ... :)
Something else that has stuck in my mind from the various things I have read over the years is this little ditty: "That which you condemn, you will one day become."
Now many of you may not believe in reincarnation. I didn't believe in it in my last life either. But basically, what that implies is that if you reach your death-bed and have a negative or uncompassionate attitude toward a particular 'type' of person, then that is what you will be in your next lifetime, so that you can experience it first-hand and thus develop genuine compassion for what that is like.
If that is indeed how things work, then I'd have to conclude that in a past life I must have been a real arsehole at some stage & behaved cruelly or been very judgemental towards those who are 'different' and who don't really fit in ... and now I have experienced it first-hand because if you want an experience that is 'different', you can't beat schizophrenia! It's like being from another planet ...
I have read that the main reason people don't remember past lives is that most of us have mad such a hash of them that it is better if we don't carry those the psychological burden of those bad memories around with us on a daily basis ...
And it is a deep mystery ... obviously, if it were easy & automatic for a human being to live life with a celebratory attitude then the world wouldn't look anything like the way it currently does ... I mean truly joyous people would never be tempted to belittle others (to boos their own fragile egos) or become angry or jealous or mock or pour scorn onto another ...
{So, one would have 2 conclude that the world is not exactly overflowing with truly joyous individuals just yet ...}
Testing ...
There's more stuff scribbled down that I haven't quite got around 2 typing up just yet ... if I forget, send me an email at grjallen@hotmail.com
{Unless I've been abducted by psychiatrists from another galaxy ...}
A few daze later ...
Oh yes, in view of some of the post I myself have made, you might think this an odd collection of thoughts & maybe even hypocrisy ... because, to be honest, there is NO way I could sincerely state that the underlying motive for them was love of my fellow man (or waoman as the case maybe) ...
I suppose that just proves that we all have equal capacity to be nasty or kind in any given moment {where's that link about 'every moment is a (fresh) choice'} ... anyway, yes, the deep, deep mystery to me is why we so often seem to choose the unkind option ...
... and it continues to perplex me because I still fall into the trap on the 'odd' occasion myself despite my very best intentions ... so who am I to even suggest things could be different ...
A Few Links
Excellent piece - esp about setting aside all attack thoughts ... FAR easier said & contemplated than done ...
Excerpts from The Troubled Mind
Worst Things to Say to Someone Who Is Depressed
A few Leunig cartoons ...
Unconditional love? {what a concept}
I suppose I ought 2 include this little link as well ...
Oh yes, there's that Lama Zopa link about criticising others and exploring the true motive behind it ... now, where was that ...
Click here? {Hmmm ... it was a valid link once upon a time ...}
Anyways, he now has his own site ... click here & have a hunt around for an article called somethin like 'The futility of criticising others' ... or just click on whatever catches your eye ...
Okay, here's a couple from maybe even further out in left field than some of the above ...
Sablec the Vulcan - a brilliant piece written by a fellow traveler with schizophrenia
Gibberish meditation - plus some background on Persian mystics ...
Tonglen Meditation (plus some nice links to the Gyuto monks etc)
That should be enough for now ...
Oops, silly me ... hows about a link to the actual 'try not to judge until you walk a mile in their moccasins' proverb that started this whole page ...
Click here - there are loads of
others ...
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"I used to think I was such a crazy bastard."
"Humans love the ten & humans love to talk about the ten commandments of life."
"I like to live in a world where people can talk and they can say things about life."
"Not in the (something). Not in the medical. Not in the medical!? Not in the medical of worlds."
Quote of the day: "You're married. You have a daughter. You don't need self-esteem."
Quote of the day:
"My boss is always sexually harassing me."
"But you're self-employed."
"I would like someone to save me a biscuit (so I can eat it on the way home)"
"One thing's for sure. I can't go back. THAT would be like asking a butterfly to go back to being a caterpillar."
"Food is always the specialty of the house."
"I'd like to know a bit more about the ongoing arrangements of worlds."
"You have no need whatsoever for external validation. However, if you wander around believing that you do need it you will search endlessly for it in vain."
"Don't we even know about things and don't we even like our diamond wings."
"Tap me on the shoulder & I'm not growing any older."
"Can we ever really love our children throughout the mornings of our lives"
"Shepherds work and shepherds play. They play another lovely game."
June 3rd ... heaps more in journal ...
"I used to think I was such a crazy little bastard."
Hopi kiva ceremony (kachina)
"This kind of thing is bound to happen (every now & then) in a culture where people's priorities are totally warped."
"A man likes to turn his own life into a railroad."
"We still have no coherent, convincing theory for why human beings turn out the way they do." {link theory to jung ... adelaide ... quote ... ot jung4 !!}
Thought for the day:
{or 'don't really'
Thought for the day:
"To experience reality, you must first forget your own name"
"I like to do lopsided things."
"When a man says something, he always wants to say something else."
"Most (if not all) heated disagreements between human beings arise when both participants have a huge emotional investment in the illusion of being right about the matter being discussed."
"In the beginning, there was no time or space or light or life. Things have changed quite a bit since then. And it was bound to happen sooner or later, wasn't it."
BB -
"No. No. No. I'm not even a ghastly bastard" {Eternal}
IMPOTANT NEWS: "Big Brother's vocie makes me ejaculate in my pants. P.S. How do I change my forum ID to Sick Puppy."
"Movement. I love the movement."
"He could be the next archbishop of Sydney. Oh no, wait. That's just TOO cruel. Forget I said anything."
"Two dollars. Two dollars. Two dollars. I'm not even the two dollar salesman. "
"Federal bloke & the man loves the other bloke." {Eternal}
"Floating bubble Topic: Did anyone notice ..."
"You can't lock me up, mate. I'm not even crazy."
"I can say things that are really weird. Like floating on a rubber story."
"A man said WICK-WACK-WICK-WACK-WOIDY and so I said WICK-WACK-WICK-WACK-WOINK."
""It's like my Dad always used to tell me on my birthday: 'A man is always a woman instead.'"
Plus ... click here ... & many others ... eternal riddle ... those were the days ... my friend ...
"Federal blimsy. Lifetime blimsy."
"I like to work and I like to work the people. I like to work the people into a friendly frenzy."
{list continues ...}
"Sorry, I'll try to adjust my sense of humour so that it's more like yours."
"That's great. But I want (to speak to) a local medical expert."
{Plus loads on tape begun RIGHT after Dr paul & family 'therapy' idea ... :)}
"Medical. Medical. Medical. Life is always medical."
"Come on Mum. Don't scare yourself with your own lifetime."
"That's pretty obvious, I suppose ... if it wasn't terribly tempting, then the world wouldn't be full of human beings doing just that ..."
"I'm looking forward to the seven boredoms of my life."
"People generally pray for whatever they believe will make them happy. Why not just pray for the happiness itself & cut out the middle man."
Testing ...
"I once knew a man who could stare at his hand for 17 hours and then he'd go out walking with a bunch of flowers."
"I'm extra & I'm always extra."
"People love to give me all the irritations of life."
"A man walks down to the shops & buys himself an onion."
{This mantra was carefully designed by a bunch of Tibetan Lamas during the 12th century. Their mysterious psychic powers enabled them to clearly foresee a time when there would be shops & onions & people wanting t buy them.}
"The blending of the world. The blending of lives."
"How do we like our world ... how do we ever like the niceness of life ..."
"I'm on this planet to do whatever I bloody like and I will do it every day and every night."
"The world needs more people who think like me. I am the ghost of your reality."
"Nice people. Nice women. Nice children. Nice doctors."
"People are very weird and their lives are very scrawny."
"It's like my Dad always used to say ... there's nothing wrong with your average human being that a few ounces of lead won't fix."
"On a fine, sunny day in 1963 an angel appeared and said a few things 2 me."
"Most human beings seem to to have this belief that if you express an opinion or point of view with increased volume or with a lot of emotion that somehow lends it more validity."
"Suddenly I'm screaming like a man who would always scream about his life."
"Hey, Dave. Why don't you run down to the shop and buy me another ice-cream."
"I'm talking about men and I'm talking about children. I'm talking about the medical histroy of life."
"What other krooklings have we ever known about?" {Note: the 'oo' sound is identical to how it is in the word 'ooze' rather than how it is in theword look or book or chook}
"I'm putrid ... & I'm always putrid"
"I want to buy things with money and then I want to buy things with all the money."
"I'm finding things in my brain that are very hard 2 explain."
"My doctor sold me a famous lifetime."
"No. No. My money. Don't soothe me with a dollar."
"I'm extra & I'm always extra."
"The blending of the world. The blending of lives."
"A man who could drink smoothly from a glass."
"A man came up to me in the street and asked if there was anyone i'd like to meet."
"Why does a man talk to his own language of life."
"The world acts like a tiny sponge ... soaking up madness without any fun."
"The secret of life is to run around the room saying 'I am the local japanese soldier' ..."
"My doctor taught me how to frizzle. He taught me how to frizzle the drizzle."
Loads more in my journal ...
and in april17.htm ... click here ... :)
"I like to woogle woogle into my own human life."
"From the mystic's point of view, your average normal human being is quite crazy & clutching onto ideas & behaviours which are either absurd or unworkable."
"I don't think anyone should ever be normal."
"Flooning. I like to believe in the flooning of lives & the flooning of the world & flooning of something else."
"I like 2 watch myself co crazy."
"No. No. No. I'm not even very crazy."
"Food gets no mention in the Bible."
"I like clapping & then saying my name to people."
"Most (if not all) heated disagreements between human beings arise when both participants have a huge emotional investment in the illusion of being right about the matter being discussed."
"I am the biological equivalent of a madman."
"I once met a man who could drink smoothly from a glass."
"Your unknown life is your unknown sandwich.""
"People love to give me all the irritations of life."
"Men & women like to tell me that I'm crazy."
"Madness is only fascinating because normality has become so tame & sterile in this modern so-called society."
"As you travel through this life, you will inevitably encounter certain people who will do things or say things or think things that you could never in a million years imagine yourself doing or thinking or saying and at such time it may be terribly tempting to pass judgement on these people. You might even yield to this temptation once or twice along the way."
"Learning about men & learning about women. Chinese doctors. Chinese women."
"Once you find that certain feeling, you can jump towards the ceiling"
{Like many mantras, I have found this one is most effective when sung in an operatic type of voice. Naturally, your mileage may vary.}
"If you find a madman in the forest, ask him where the toothpaste ripens."
"Come on, Mum. Don't try & scare me with your thoughts and words and ideas about life."
"I like to think the world is next."
"People don't even like me anymore - they love to kick me out the door."
"The world is a tiny loop. And I like to loop-the-loop."
"People like to pay a lot of attention to their own tiny families."
"I like to throw water into a bucket and watch it splash."
"I'm trying to tickle myself into a frenzy (of reality)."
"No. No. No. A man can never walk into another man's life."
"... but I forgive them because they don't really know very much about life."
PASTE these into may2001.htm as well ... :)
A few days later ... and an alternative view is there ... click - hopefully that is a valid link ... it was posted May 20, 2002 ...
Okay ... one last link ... has to do with the King Otto 'solution' mentioned earlier ...
What I did on the weekend - hopefully that is a valid link ... :)
Then see may 20 journal ... esp this link :)
"As you travel through this life, you will inevitably encounter certain people who will do things or say things or think things that you could never in a million years imagine yourself doing or thinking or saying and at such time it may be terribly tempting to pass judgement on these people. You might even yield to this temptation once or twice along the way."
http://www.lamayeshe.com/our_teachers/Lama_Zopa/negrejoicing.html
Now it's June 6th ... my time flies ... here's soemthing awfully cute ...